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Frequently Asked Questions:
Why should I see a counsellor?
Usually people decide to see a counsellor or therapist when they are experiencing
difficulties and distress in their lives. It is often easier to talk to someone who is
non-judgemental and independent of family or friends. Sometimes, as well, it is not
easy or even impossible to explain why we feel the way we do or what is at the
heart of our concerns. And major life events and issues such as bereavement,
relationship issues, bullying, health, redundancy etc can have a huge impact on our
day to day functioning. Having said this, you do not need to be in crisis to see a
counsellor and it may be that you are feeling disillusioned or unhappy generally or
simply "stuck". You may just even want to look at your inner light and connect with
your sense of spirit.
What is therapy?
Therapy (or counselling or psychotherapy) is an opportunity for you to talk about
your feelings, emotions, difficulties and issues with a trained professional in a safe
and confidential place. It includes looking at life events (past and present) and
patterns of behaviour. Everyone's circumstances are unique and, rather than offering
advice, the therapist will help you look for your own answers, whether that is
changing something or accepting things. Often exploring things in some depth is
useful in order to gain a clearer perspective on life, ways to cope and how to move
forward, often with a deeper understanding of yourself.
When will I feel better?
Usually it takes a few sessions before therapy starts to make a difference and you
should not expect instant results. It also does not necessarily work for everyone
and it is important to have support outside the counselling room, particularly if you
are dealing with very personal and difficult issues. You might find that you for
through a period of feeling worse than you did at the beginning but this is not
unusual and if you find that this is the case, talk to your therapist so that you can
work through this in order to feel better in the long run. Timing is everything and
if it really does not feel like the right time or the right person, it may well be that
a different time and/or a different person will be better. Having said this, it is
often worth the effort to continue to work through your problems.
What happens in the first session?
The first session is largely an initial assessment of your situation and discussion of
the issues you bring to counselling. You will be asked a number of questions about
how you have been feeling in the recent past, something of your background and
home/work circumstances, what support you have and any history of previous or
Confidentiality will be discussed and explained that only in circumstance where
there is any risk of harm, either from yourself or from others,might a confidence
have to be broken. In such cases, it is hoped that this could always be done with
the client's knowledge and consent. There may, however, be times when a
therapist is required by law to break confidentiality.
Dates and times of sessions and an initial number of sessions will be agreed with
you towards the end of the first session and you can decide at that point to continue
Still want to know more?
If you would like to find out more about counselling, simply go to the "It's Good to Talk"
website www.itsgoodtotalk.org.uk (via the British Association of Counselling and
Psychotherapy www.bacp.co.uk) and click on the video "What is therapy?".
or contact me:
T: 07731 577256